Dana Adam Shapiro spent over three years interviewing hundreds of divorced people about marriage for his book, You Can Be Right (or You Can Be Married) , now out in paperback. Here are some words of wisdom from them.
"It's not a question of winning love from people. It's either there or it isn't — there's nothing you can do other than be yourself."
— Liz, 43
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"You have to find somebody who is willing to accept you for who you are and then tell you that that's not good enough. And with their help, you figure out how to be better. And you need to do the same thing for them."
— Jim, 55
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"My advice for someone getting married would not be to learn how to get along, but to learn how to fight fairly and productively."
— Steve, 39
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"No, I don't think you have to agree on silly things like who likes white meat and who likes dark meat, or who wants the thermostat set to 75 and who wants it set to 65. Temperament is important; temperature is not."
— Mary, 58
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