Are you not-white and on the internet dating tip? Prepare for some skeevy racial fetishizers.
We all have types – I personally prefer tall, extraordinarily handsome gentlemen who are brilliant, hilarious, kind, ambitious and have nice teeth. We all have our things. But there’s a line between having a fondness for certain attributes and being the kind of person whose type is simply “Asian girls” or “black guys."
That doesn't mean there's anything wrong with finding a particular Asian woman or a particular black man attractive. Three cheers for interracial relationships! I'm talking about "I only date ethnic women" as if white people simply lack ethnicity or “I love Asian chicks” or “black men are awesome in bed because WELL YOU KNOW WHY” or "I love fiery Latin women" or "black women are the best because butts." I'm talking about the people who take actual personality out of the attraction, or assume that because someone has a particular racial background they also have other traits – whether that’s being a tiny submissive lotus-flower or packing a big dong.
And these folks use Match.com like it's a sushi bar where they can’t wait to select all the best cuts of fish. Since what they care about is the race thing, they’ll do you the favor of putting that right out front. Instead of mentioning your favorite book or your hobbies or your job – information which is readily available on your profile – they’ll go right for the thing that attracts them: Your ethnic background. And when in doubt, they’ll call you “exotic,” as one a guy called a woman on Match.com:
soo.. im sitting here staring at your pics (not in a creepy way haha) trying to determine if you are really ONLY white lol … like, i know it says white, but im just not buying it :D if its true you are by FAR the most exotic looking “white” ive ever seen.. and uh, i think its safe to say that ive seen quite a lot at this point in life ^__^
If you have to clarify that you’re doing something “not in a creepy way,” maybe don’t do that thing? Or don’t admit to doing that thing? Although much respect for using “white” as a noun in telling her that she is the most exotic “white” you have ever seen. That kind of slightly dehumanizing rhetorical trick is usually reserved for talking about non-white people, so I appreciate what you did there. Equality! Cat-face! You should make friends with this next guy, who used this line on OKCupid:
I am interested in meeting an Asian. You are pretty, and would like to meet you. Can we get to know each other?
Ah yes, using OK Cupid to achieve your life goal of meeting an Asian [sic]. It is hard, with all the Asians getting salty when you hang out with them and just want to talk about Asian stuff, like how cool Asia is and how hot Asians are and how pretty you are, young lady, being that you are an Asian. He’s just trying to get to know you! Especially all the Asian parts of you. Up for a kung fu movie and some sushi? Or maybe just some sexy kung fu, like this guy on Match.com?
please beat me up and take my money…just looking to serve and worship a beautiful superior Asian Princess.
-loser slave
